My name is Jenna and I like to flirt

Should I feel guilty for having flirty friends? I am married. And more relevant, I never have had flirty friends before. Well, not sexy-flirty friends. There’s no precedent.

Here are the facts:

1. I’ve always been pretty shy about flirting.
2. I’ve been together with Mark for a very long time. He doesn’t flirt.
3. I’m a mom, which in my experience doesn’t jive with flirting.
4. I like to flirt. I’d do it more in real life if it weren’t for items 2 and 3.
5. Flirting online is fun and relatively harmless. At least I think it is.

So, should I feel guilty? I’m not sure. What would my friends say? Most would probably say yes. What do you think?

The thing is, I just don’t usually feel capable of experiencing guilt. It’s a foreign emotion for me. What’s with that? Am I a sociopath? I think I feel pretty much all the other emotions. But not guilt. Weird.

By the way, I’d really like to find a girl to flirt with. Know anyone?


  1. S says:

    Kudos to you for posting this tomorrow, already. How did you manage that?

    I don’t think you should feel guilty. I do think you should consider the limits of what Mark is comfortable with you doing, and let that guide you.

    Another thing to consider is that, in my experience, the kind of thrill that comes from novel, flirtatious attention can be addictive. You have to be careful not to let it consume you or detract from your “real” life.

    By the way, as far not feeling guilty, usually the only times I feel guilty are those when I didn’t really do anything wrong, like feeling guilty about not doing better as a parent. I have done things that mainstream society would consider wrong, and I did not feel guilty. And I don’t think I’m a sociopath (although others are free to disagree).

  2. Mark says:

    No, sociopaths lack moral conscious, so unless you wouldn’t feel guilty about, say also murdering or stealing, I don’t think you’re a sociopath.

    But I also agree with “s”. It can be exciting, and addictive, and one of the reasons I don’t flirt with girls besides you (see #2 is slightly wrong) is because in real life it requires you to know when to stop. And I’m not totally sure I trust myself to decide when enough is enough

    And me, well I tend to oh feel guilty when I’m neglecting, or hiding something someone I love